The Demartini Method is a bit of an interesting enigma.
Difficult to explain fully, simple to apply, scientific in its application and liberating in its outcome. It is one of the most amazing life skills tools I have ever learnt, applied and taught. It has helped me to love my past, heal my present and enhance my future.
I include it in every course I facilitate and subtly use it in my funeral and wedding ceremonies.

The most convincing words I can present on The Demartini Method are the thank you notes I have received from the many grateful people I have worked with. See end of document. The best way for you to understand what I am attempting to say here is to experience The Demartini Method yourself. You have little to lose and so much to gain.

Here is some of the official wording around the method:

The Demartini Method - The Tool with 1000 Uses for Enhancing Your Life:
The Demartini Method® is a breakthrough discovery and cutting edge personal transformation methodology which results in a new perspective and paradigm in thinking and feeling. Developed by Dr. John Demartini, it is the culmination of more than 36 years of research and studies in numerous disciplines including physics, philosophy, theology, metaphysics, psychology, astronomy, mathematics, neurology and physiology.

The Demartini Method is:

• A systematic pre-determined series of mental questions directed toward the objective of assisting an individual to feel present, certainty and gratitude.
• A procedure that neutralizes an individual's emotional charges, balances his or her mental and physical reactions, opens his or her heart and clears his or her mind.
• A continuous thinking process and writing action repeated over a course of time that results in a resolution of dis-equilibrated perceptions.
• A reproducible science enabling individuals to discover the underlying order governing their apparent daily chaos.
• The Demartini Method is the most powerful, effective and efficient methodology in personal transformation. It is an effective means of transforming any form of stress or conflict.

The Demartini Method is now being used in over 58 countries throughout the world. Millions of individuals have now heard of this stress reducing, conflict resolving method. It is presently being introduced to psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, health professionals, prison workers, police, business executives, financial specialists, film producers, actors, politicians, and U.N. delegates.

Click this link to hear Dr Demartini describe the Demartini Method himself: http://www.drdemartini.com/demartini_method

I am a Trained Demartini Method Facilitator and have trained directly with Dr. Demartini himself.
My hourly rate is R550 per hour (Dr Demartini charges US$2000 per hour).
I find it most effective and efficient to work in 2 hour sessions.
Interestingl enough, multiple sessions are rarely required.

Click here to download more information on the Demartini Method

 

Stephen and Dr Demartini with facilitators of The Relationship Experience in December 2011

Good Morning Stephen,
Hope you are doing well.
I just want to thank you for your help on Tuesday. I have not been in a good space lately.
The aftermath of the divorce and struggles and court battles to get my kids really got me very down and depressed.
Up until lately it got worse and worse even to a point where I battled focusing on work.
Thank you for showing me that there are different sides to everything.
I was so focused on the negative side of what happened that I never imagined that any good can be seen in not having custody over my young children.
I have a complete new perspective on my situation, and this is really helping stacks.
So the moment my mind starts focusing on what is bad, I think of the good that came out of the situation. I want to "train" my mind to see the balance in every situation. Good and Bad.
If it is ok with you I would like to refer you to some of my friends… They saw the change in me and asked about it.
Thank you once again. You won't believe the difference it has made. Have a amazing day.
Marguerite Smit

Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time, wisdom and love – and for teaching me so much about human nature, relationships, myself and particularly, my mom.
Although you learnt the method from Demartini – its your beautiful soul that makes the experience so insightful and valuable.
Thanks again, Jo-Anne Fraser

Dear Stephen
Thank you so much for the time you spent with me last Wednesday.
Since then my world has become a much more exciting and interesting place. I have challenged your theories daily and as a result have explored many mental paths I didn't know existed.
Testing your assurance that 'nothing is EVER missing', I have starting to look within myself only to find what I thought I didn't possess.
I would love to spend more time with you to work through the Demartini Method when things settle down so please send me the details.
Finally, I saw this in a presentation the other day and though it quite apt:
"If you think of this world as a place intended simply for your happiness, you find it quite intolerable.
Think of it as a place for training and correction, and it's not so bad."
From: Alice in Wonderland
Have a wonderful weekend!  
Warm regards, Juliet

Hi Stephen
Thank you for your time, it was very enlightening.
I would love to do more with you as there are many issues that can be resolved.
I will send this onto the bank and let's hope they will accept if not it shouldn't be a deterrent for me to continue as you can't put a price on growth and healing
Once again, thank you for making it wonderfully comfortable to share with you
Regards, Michelle

Dear Stephen,
I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for the time and energy you spent facilitating me through the Demartini Process on the 15th January 2011.
As I am a Life Coach, I was curious to see how and if the method would assist deeper, reflective learning of self and create sustainable change for me.
With this in mind I chose to work on an inner conflict with self.
The results and experience during the process were thought provoking and interesting; I enjoyed being challenged and stretched, mentally and emotionally, which you are able to do effortlessly and from a place of support and encouragement.
I can conclusively say that my curiosity was indeed satisfied. The process did assist deeper, reflective learning and created sustainable change within my thought process around the issue we worked on.
Therefore, I am now more comfortable with the issue and can see the benefits of the change already taking place in my life.
I wish you everything of the best for your future and the work that you are doing to change lives.
Warm Regards
Samantha Lewis

Hi Stephen
Please find the attached proof of payment for the session today.
Once again it was very challenging to accept the things you don't want to hear, but only good can come from admitting these things
I can't express enough to you how these sessions have helped me though a very difficult patch in my life. It is nice to be inspired and exhilarated from a session.
Thanking you kindly, Michelle

Good morning Stephen,
I just want to say thanks for helping my sister – she is like a new person and I feel so good – I worry about her so much and she was in a real bad way when she came to me on Monday.
Thank you for being who you are and being so special
Take care and have a stunning weekend, Dianne

Hi Stephen
Thanks for the life changing session.  So many puzzlements clicked into place in an order that I can now understand.  I am sure that when I have fully processed and cleared these immediate issues, I will want move more strongly into a place where I fully embrace and completely live by the principles. And I will be back for more sessions.
In truth, Debbie Blackburn, MM (Wits); PDM (Wits); MAP (Wits)

Hi Stephen
It was also great meeting with you yesterday and you have been of great help!
Thanks again!! Hendrien

The Relationship Experience for Couples

Overview:

The Relationship Experience is all about communication and human behavior in love relationships:

• You will firstly learn about yourself, your values and your high value area. Essentially what's truly important to you.
• And then learn about each other and your unique relationship by sharing and exploring how this interrelates for the two of you.
• You will see where you are alike and where you differ.
• How your differences actually make you a team.
• You will get insights into what makes a marriage, what constitutes a healthy relationship and incredible new insights into human behavior in love relationships.
• You will learn both of your Love Languages and practice speaking to each other in the appropriate language.
• You will learn both of your Apology Languages and practice apologizing in the appropriate language.
• You will learn life skills that are fully applicable in ALL your relationships.
• You will share your likes and dislikes of self to each other.
• Then share what you love and hate about each other (and yes, there are both in every healthy relationship).
• Using the Demartini Method, we will reframe the things that challenge you about your partner (and vice versa) which will improve the chances of not allowing them to derail your marriage.

Click here to download the Relationship experience course outline and rates

 

What people are saying about The Relationship Experience:

"I loved the value system and where we as couples fit and as hard as it was to accept, it certainly helped realize that we have different value systems and that we are together to balance it out. I also enjoyed the exercise to show that if we both have same value priority how that will not work. I found it awesome to find where the kids are and how we always want to change them and think like us as parents and this experience showed me that my bottom value is my son's highest value and the balance he gives the family. I found the experience very valuable in dealing and understanding my partner and how we work together. It's not always easy to see why we argue but after the experience I now can see it clearly and that it's ok. I look forward to the Demartini work to shift some thoughts to complete the process. The value system also was a huge help in placing our children in their priority value system and how that balances us as parents. Thanks for your wisdom and directness and it's a pleasure having you as a facilitator. I highly recommend every couple and every parent to do this process as it will provide invaluable insight in how to deal and accept each other and your kids, and how you have chosen each other to balance your relationship and family."
Michelle

"Doing this course has created a connection, and understanding of self and my husband that I had no idea I could discover after such a long time of knowing him, in such a short few hours. It opened our hearts and our communication channels. I feel a balance to my life and an acceptance of myself and my husband. I feel more comfortable expressing to him than I have in a long time, and it's truly reviving our soul's desires."
Sarah

Dear Stephen
Thanks again for last night - we are gaining such value from what we have learnt so far (and having some heated dinner table debates!)
Sian

"What I loved:
1. Learning to speak to my wife in a way that she acknowledges what I am saying and the meaning of what I am saying.
2. Learning what works for both of us and how the other person's skill is not a difference but an aid to my strengths if seen and used in the correct way.
3. Finding a way to save my relationship with my wife.
Thank you Stephen for you willingness to give us your time and expertise in a manner that made Sarah and myself comfortable and open to sharing with each other.
I have had my eyes opened as to how to start to build the foundations of a stronger relationship with Sarah and I thank you for providing me with the tool to start on this journey.
I am looking forward to our next session"
Kind regards, Gareth

What I loved:
I loved finding out that the things that I dislike most about ............. are the things that I own within myself. That enabled me to really drop the emotional charge and let go of them, essentially really lightening my mind. I loved finding out how to deal with these sort of issues in a healthy way. I feel it really helped me connect better not only with Petro but more importantly myself, helping me to own both the good and bad.
Testimonial
I would encourage everyone to do this course, part of growing and evolving, includes a large deal of introspection. And what better way to have an honest look inside and take ownership of who we are. It's a powerful moment when you realize that everything you dislike about others, is something you yourself do. But it's easy to overlook our own behaviours and point fingers at everyone else. When the truth is simpler, own that trait, perspective, attitude or whatever and watch it disappear or at the very least diminish in its charge. I wish I had done this years ago, thank you so much.
Iain Knox

Dear Stephen
Once again thank you so much for the amazing ceremony that you did for Mladen and I. I can't tell you how many of our friends and family came up to us afterwards to tell us how special and unique it was. We enjoyed the relationship experience so much too, it was so much fun learning even more about each other before our wedding, so thank you so much for taking us through it. You really made us feel comfortable to share and to be open with each other.
Antoinette and Mladen

Your choice of a career could not be more important.

You spend 50% of your waking hours at work; why not love what you do? The greatest two questions you can ask yourself are, "What do I love most and how do I earn a fortune doing that?" People who do what they love and love what they do never work a day in their lives. They are healthier, wealthier and so authentic that they inspire others naturally. Their vocation is their vacation.

I use a combination of the Wealth Dynamics profile and Dr. Demartini's Hi Value Determination process to assist people to find where they are most in their flow and what they really value and love. We then work together to find ways to find the perfect vocation.

Cost: R3000
Duration: 3 hours

LIFE is a quagmire of do's and don'ts.
Of yes's and no's. Should's and should not's.
Of nice people, and horrible people.
Of people who like you and people who don't.
Family that annoy you and strangers that just accept you.
Of work and play, ecstasy and devastation, love and hate, health and sickness.
Of dominating and being dominated.
And doesn't LIFE have a strange way of turning out differently to what we expected?

Dr. John Demartini defines depression as, "When one compares reality (what has happened) with one's fantasies of what one expected to happen". And while we may not all be depressed, we all certainly experience disappointment at some time or another. Some of us are equipped to handle stress better than others.

This Life Skills course will:

• Assist you to see LIFE in a new way.
• Give you tools with which to interpret what is happening to you in a different and more manageable way.
• Assist you to feel more connected to who you are and what your purpose is in life.
• Consider and debate a different perspective on the meaning of LIFE
• Connect you with the rest of the human race in ways you never deemed possible.
• Will give you new insights into yourself and your true potential.

High Value Determination Exercise

• Understand the theory of values and how they influence you and your decisions
• Find and understand your personal hierarchy of values•
• Realise what's really important to you and what that means in your life

High Value Area Exercise

• Understand the theory of high value areas and how they come into play in a marriage
• Find and understand your personal high value area
• Realize what's really important to you and what that means in your life

The Dynamics of Stress Exercise

• Understand the 15 fantasies and delusions that give rise to the ABCD's of negativity and depression in a marriage: Anger/Aggression, Blame/Betrayal, Criticism/Challenge, Despondency/Desperation
• Understand how the 4628 human traits interact in your life
• Discussion on how this works in your life
• Where do you have unrealistic expectations of yourself?
• Where do you have unrealistic expectations of your spouse/mother/father/children/boss/God/past/present/future?

The meaning of Life and A great discovery

• Philosophical discussion on the meaning of life
• Discovering that nothing is ever missing

Personal Development Exercise and The Demartini Method

• Recognize the 5 things you love about yourself
• Recognize the 5 things you hate most about yourself
• Equilibrate/Balance/Neutralize the main issues in your life

Click here to downlaod the Life Skills Experience course outline and rates

A man once asked a Zen Master, "What is most amazing to you?" He answered, "That a man, seeing others dying around him, believes he will never die and is thus unprepared when he does."

- DEATH -
Do you fear your death?
Do you fear the death of someone you love?
Are you or someone you love facing a terminal illness?
Do your loved ones know what your last wishes are when you pass?
Are you mourning the loss of a loved one through death, separation or divorce?
Are you and your family prepared mentally, emotionally, spiritually and legally for your passing?

As a minister I perform over 200 funerals a year. On reflection I can see how this has prepared me for my own passing and indeed lessened my fear associated with death. I am also called on to provide grief counselling from time to time which has given me insights into grief and grieving. The Demartini Method for Grief has also given me incredible insights into grief management. Added to this, as a Universalist, I have studied other cultures and religions including their "life after death" beliefs. My biggest realization though, is that most people have not spent nearly enough time addressing, preparing for and coming to terms with, this really important aspect of life – Death.

So how do we tackle this enormous subject?

Depending on what we are dealing with we would explore some or all of the following concepts:

• Discussions about the meaning of life and death
• Discussions on what happens when we die
• Discussions about God, the universe and eternity
• Discussions about various beliefs systems relating to death and dying
• Understanding specifically what it is you fear
• Dissolving those fears using the Demartini Method
• Pin pointing exactly what you believe you are missing
• Showing you that nothing is really missing using the Demartini Method
• Dissolving grief using the Demartini Method
• Dissolving guilt using the Demartini Method
• Breaking paradigms by asking specific questions using the Demartini Method
• Exploring the magnificence of the universe (projecting 10 years into the future)
• If I die, the kids and spouse turn out fine
• If my loved one dies, the kids and I turn out fine
• If we both die, the kids turn out fine
• How do I tell the kids, my parents, my spouse?
• Communicating with those I love
• Recognizing that the universe is in order and a magnificent place to be right now
• The five biggest regrets of the dying.
• Planning and writing a Will
• What do you want to happen when you pass?
• Planning a funeral
• What do you want at your or someone else's funeral

Click here to download the course outline on overcoming loss