The Demartini Method: The Tool with 1000 Uses for Enhancing Your Life

The Demartini Method® is a breakthrough discovery and cutting edge personal transformation methodology which results in a new perspective and paradigm in thinking and feeling. Developed by Dr. John Demartini, it is the culmination of more than 39 years of research and studies in numerous disciplines including physics, philosophy, theology, metaphysics, psychology, astronomy, mathematics, neurology and physiology.

The Demartini Method is:

• A systematic pre-determined series of mental questions directed toward the objective of assisting an individual to feel present, certainty and gratitude.
• A procedure that neutralises an individual's emotional charges, balances his or her mental and physical reactions, opens his or her heart and clears his or her mind.
• A continuous thinking process and writing action repeated over a course of time that results in a resolution of dis-equilibrated perceptions.
• A reproducible science enabling individuals to discover the underlying order governing their apparent daily chaos.

The Demartini Method is the most powerful, effective and efficient methodology in personal transformation. It is an effective means of transforming any form of stress or conflict.

The Demartini Method is now being used in over 58 countries throughout the world. Millions of individuals have now heard of this stress reducing, conflict resolving method. It is presently being introduced to psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, health professionals, prison workers, police, business executives, financial specialists, film producers, actors, politicians, and U.N. delegates.

Learn more about the Demartini Method: http://www.drdemartini.com/demartini_method

Stephen van Basten is a trained Demartini Method Facilitator with the Demartini Institute, check out his credential at: http://www.drdemartini.com/facilitators/page/4/certificate//country/197

Stephen and Dr Demartini with facilitators of The Relationship Experience in December 2011

High Value Determination Exercise

• Understand the theory of values and how they come into play in a marriage
• Find and understand your personal hierarchy of values
• Understand your spouse’s hierarchy of values
• Practical exercise working with each other to understand how your individual values serve each other
• How to speak in each other’s value’s

High Value Area Exercise

• Understand the theory of high value areas and how they come into play in a marriage
• Find and understand your personal high value area
• Understand your spouse’s high value area
• Practical exercise working with each other to understand how your individual high value areas serve each other
• How to speak in each other’s value’s

The Dynamics of Relationship Stress Exercise

• Understand the 15 fantasies and delusions that give rise to the ABCD’s of negativity and depression in a marriage:
• Anger/Aggression, Blame/Betrayal, Criticism/Challenge, Despondency/Desperation
• Discussion on how this works in relationships and how they relate to high values and high value area’s
• Where do you have unrealistic expectations of spouse?
• Where does your spouse have unrealistic expectations of you?
• Where do you have unrealistic expectations of yourself?
• Practicing the gift of feedback.

The Five love Languages Exercise

• Find and understand your Love Language
• Understand your spouse’s Love Language
• Understand when your spouse is speaking to you in their Love Language
• Practical exercise to practice speaking in your spouse’s Love Language

The Five Apology Languages Exercise

• Find and understand your Apology Language
• Understand your spouse’s Apology Language
• Understand when your spouse is apologizing to you in their Apology Language
• Practical exercise to practice apologizing in your spouse’s Apology Language

There is never anything missing: The Soul Mate Exercise

• Finding and recognizing your soul mate

Likes and Dislikes Exercise

• Find the 5 traits you most love and the 5 traits you most hate about yourself
• Find the 5 traits you most love and the 5 traits you most dislike about your spouse
• Practicing the gift of feedback.

Introduction to the Demartini Method

• Equilibrate the trait you most dislike about your spouse

What people are saying:

“I loved the value system and where we as couples fit and as hard as it was to accept, it certainly helped realize that we have different value systems and that we are together to balance it out. I also enjoyed the exercise to show that if we both have same value priority how that will not work. I found it awesome to find where the kids are and how we always want to change them and think like us as parents and this experience showed me that my bottom value is my son’s highest value and the balance he gives the family. I found the experience very valuable in dealing and understanding my partner and how we work together. It’s not always easy to see why we argue but after the experience I now can see it clearly and that it’s ok. I look forward to the Demartini work to shift some thoughts to complete the process.
The value system also was a huge help in placing our children in their priority value system and how that balances us as parents. Thanks for your wisdom and directness and it’s a pleasure having you as a facilitator.
I highly recommend every couple and every parent to do this process as it will provide invaluable insight in how to deal and accept each other and your kids, and how you have chosen each other to balance your relationship and family.”
Michelle

“Doing this course has created a connection, and understanding of self and my husband that I had no idea I could discover after such a long time of knowing him, in such a short few hours. It opened our hearts and our communication channels. I feel a balance to my life and an acceptance of myself and my husband. I feel more comfortable expressing to him than I have in a long time, and it’s truly reviving our soul’s desires.”
Sarah

“What I loved:
1. Learning to speak to my wife in a way that she acknowledges what I am saying and the meaning of what I am saying.
2. Learning what works for both of us and how the other person’s skill is not a difference but an aid to my strengths if seen and used in the correct way.
3. Finding a way to save my relationship with my wife.
Thank you Stephen for you willingness to give us your time and expertise in a manner that made Sarah and myself comfortable and open to sharing with each other. I have had my eyes opened as to how to start to build the foundations of a stronger relationship with Sarah and I thank you for providing me with the tool to start on this journey.
I am looking forward to our next session”
Kind regards, Gareth

Stephen van Basten is a Trained Demartini Method Facilitator and student of Dr. Demartini’s work and draws much inspiration from such in this workshop * see www.drdemartini.com
The 5 Love Languages of Love and 5 languages of apology are written by Gary Chapman and are available in most bookstores
Stephen has been married for 19 years and has a daughter of 16.

Your values arise from and are therefore determined by your conscious or unconscious voids (what you perceive as most missing).
What you perceive as most missing (void) in your life therefore becomes what you perceive as most important (value).
Your underlying private voids drive your overlying public values.

Your fulfillment means the filling of your perceptually empty voids. The hierarchy of your voids determines the hierarchy of your values.
The hierarchy of your values determine how you perceive (what you selectively attend to) and how you act (what you selectively intend upon) in your world and therefore they determine your immediate destiny.
Since your values change over time, your destiny therefore changes over time. The summation of your series of destinies determines your evolving life journey.
Your ultimate or relatively unchanging core value dictates your infinite journey the most. Your transient, changing, crusted hierarchy of values dictates your series of transient finite destinies.

When you live according to your highest values you become inspired and awaken genius.
When you live according to your lower values you require continuous outside motivation and you suppress your genius.
Your present purpose or mission for life will reflect your present highest values.

Get assistance determining your values by going through the Value Determination Process with Stephen.
This forms the basis of Life Coaching and Career Guidance and coupled with the Demartini Method becomes an incredibly powerful tool to assist one in making important life decisions

Click here to see Dr Demartini on Values.
Stephen van Basten is a Trained Demartini Method Facilitator and student of Dr. Demartini’s work and draws much inspiration from such in his work * see www.drdemartini.com
Check out Stephens credential here.